This is my perspective from the proposal… to read Scarlett’s perspective please click here
It started out as a regular Tuesday. I woke up and had my coffee while I ate cereal & drank my coffee. It was clear blue skies with a hint of 72 degree weather. There was a chance of rain but luckily it didn’t rain. I slowly walked up stairs to where Scarlett was sleeping (I gave her my bed while I took the couch while she is visiting). My hand was on the doorknob and I was opening the door.
Rewind to 3 years ago
I was just ending one of the worst relationships of my life. It was so unevenly yoked, things were rough and we argued. That was the last relationship I ever had until now. I told myself then that I wouldn’t be in another relationship for a while. One morning in prayer, I told the Lord that I wanted him to direct my path to the ONE that he created for me. The ONE that he meant for me. The woman that is perfect for me to be with. I was a single man until last summer.
During WPPI 2009 I was invited to a private party hosted by Scarlett Lillian. She doesn’t remember meeting me but I remember meeting her. LOL.
Scarlett & I started talking by email. These emails became so long that we got tired of typing responses so we moved to video chatting. A couple of weeks after that we wanted to talk all the time so we started to text throughout the entire day. We never got tired of each other. Scarlett mentioned to me that she had an engagement session in San Diego in the fall so we planned to hangout for a couple of days. Those couple of days turned into over an entire week because I kept convincing her to change her flights on southwest day after day. I didn’t want her to leave!!! Things were just getting started.
Our relationship has been long distance and I was a little worried when we first began but through the power of the holy spirit, skype and our busy travels from coast 2 coast, we have made it work really nicely. Other than one time, we have pretty much been with each other almost every 2 weeks!!
As we started to travel more to see each other, I started to realize these feelings that I haven’t ever felt. We kept Jesus as #1 in our love, our values are the same, we live the same faith, our passion and life goals are very similar and okay… we are both photographers too. One evening when we were together in Jacksonville we started looking at rings and it just felt… right. It wasn’t awkward talking about engagements or proposals, it felt really nice and comfortable when we chatted about those things.
Fast forward back to Tuesday morning
I turned the doorknob open.. ran into the room and I screamed “GOOOOD MORNING!!!!!!”. Scarlett jumped and said “ughhhh whatttt….?” I looked her straight in the face and told her that today would be an amazing day. We then laid next to each other talking about random things and then she asked me “what should I wear today? I responded by telling her to dress up really nicely.
Now back up a few days… when I got the ring, yes she was there with me because I wanted to make sure it was the exact one she wanted. I am kinda bad at keeping secrets and I did certain things on Tuesday morning that related to rings such as humming “put a ring on it by Beyonce” around the house and I would look at her finger and point out that it was empty. It got a good laugh… totally worth it!
On Saturday, I told Scarlett that we would be going to the flower fields early next week. That same day I called up my good friend & awesome photographer Gavin Wade. I lined up he and his amazing wife to shoot the entire event. Our plan was flower fields at sunset. Later that day, Scarlett brought up something about the flower fields… darn!! I knew that she knew that I would propose to her that week IN the flower fields.
A few hours before we left, I emailed Gavin & Erin telling them to switch the location to Moonlight Beach in Encinitas, CA. They drove down from OC to set up their shooting locations before we arrived.
At 5pm Tuesday, Scarlett & I got in the car and headed north. I had the ring in the nice box in my right jacket pocket. I forcefully had my arm covering the pocket so that she couldn’t see that the ring was on me. She kept trying to hold my hand and I resisted which made her feel weird.
Scarlett turned to look at me and she said, “Um… this isn’t the flower fields”.
“Uhmm. I know that.”
“Are we making a pit stop”
“Well, we aren’t going to the flower fields…”
We get out of the car and walk down to the sand. It was kind of hard to walk on thick sand in my converse and he cowgirl boots but we managed.
As we’re walking down the beach I tried to peek around looking to spot Gavin & Erin. I found a spot that was directly between both of them which was on a tiny cliff above the sand.
We sit down and we just looked out to the ocean for a few minutes.
The beach has been such a special place in our relationship. I never was going to take her to the flower fields. It was a coverup the entire time. The beach was where we first worshipped together, shared times of quiet time & prayer and have walked a lot with our feet in the cool water.
I put my left hand into my pocket and grabbed some paper that I had printed some of our most memorable emails onto and I read them all aloud to her.
After that, I felt the spirit telling me to pray and so I did. We prayed for our relationship, thanking the spirit for always being with us and for Jesus doing so much good in our lives.
I reached my right hand into my pocket and I whispered to Scarlett saying, “Um, I have something to ask you…”
Okay… from the perspective of the guy, I was sweating bullets. I felt like time had stopped and everything in the world didn’t matter more than this moment between us
I pulled the ring out, got down to one knee
Okay….. here it comes!!!! Sweating bullets….
As I opened the ring box I asked her, “Miss Scarlett Lillian Williams… will you spend forever with me?”
She yelled “AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!”
She yelled “YES!!”
YES!!! SHE SAID YES!!!!!
I responded with “Really, you will?”
In excitement I jumped up and still had the ring in my hand. She told me to get back down on one knee and slide the ring on her finger. WHOOPS!
She jumped up onto me and I asked her the “Guess What?” question which is a game we have…
“Guess what?”
“What?”
“We’re ENGAGED!!!!”
She screamed sooo loud!
I turned to my left and pointed out where Gavin & Erin were hiding and we all hugged each other in excitement.
We probably laughed and kept smiling at each other for like 30 minutes! We then took a stroll down the beach as Gavin & Erin took some pictures of us…
Wow… It was really fun writing that all out because that entire moment flew by so quickly and I’m SO glad we have good images of that entire afternoon because I totally felt like I was in the twilight zone and I don’t remember everything that happened. I guess I remember the moments before & after but not in between but it’s all starting to come back to me.
THANK YOU to everyone who has texted, emailed, facebooked, twittered us during this exciting time… God has truly blessed me with the most amazing woman that I could ever want. If you wait on the Lord and go by his timing, he will bless you with such incredible things that you couldn’t ever imagine. We appreciate your kindness, support & love during this time. Thank You for reading the story of one of the most amazing moments of our lives.
We don’t have a date picked out yet… We are really just enjoying this amazing moment in our lives and we’re relying on the Lord to tell us what to do next.
Here are some of our favorite pictures from the day that Gavin & Erin Wade photographed during the special moment



“Guess what?”… “What?” … “WE’RE ENGAGED!!!” … “AHHHHH!!!!”



How cool that someone that previously written in the wall “I <3 U”!!!?





This one is by far one of my favorite images…. It’s currently my desktop background!
